Friday, May 7, 2010

Mother's Day

Well as you can imagine, Mother's Day is a hard time for an infertile such as myself. It is a very painful reminder of a barren womb and empty arms. But I am going to try not to dwell on what I do not have on this Mother's Day, but rather on what I DO have.

I have the best mother any girl could have ever wanted. She put me first from the day my father walked out and left us when I was 9 months old. She tried to be everything to me, and she was. She put off remarrying because she had a child to raise. SHE sacrificed her whole life, when she didn't have two nickels to rub together, I had new clothes and felt like all the other kids. I can never really convey what a godly woman she is. She brought me up in the faith, she took me to church, she showed me God's love in a very real way. I guess the best way to sum it all up is a quote I love by Abraham Lincoln in which he said, "Everything I am or hope to be, I owe to my Mother." So so so so very true. I love you Mom!!!!

And I found this poem about how hard mother's day is for an infertile, struggling to get through years and years of Mother's Days and I would like to share it.

"Happy Mother's Day”

It comes around every year;
but when you have empty arms,
it's very hard to hear.
It's a day to celebrate a mother,
for all the trials she overcame;
and a reminder to an infertile
of her loneliness and shame.
But what really makes a mother,
Is it just conception and birth?
Or is there something more,
that shows a mother's worth?
It's putting your child first,
in everything you do;
it's sacrifice and determination,
and love and patience too.
An infertile woman makes all her plans,
around a child not yet conceived;
she loves them even though they aren't here,
more than she ever could have believed.
She appreciates and understands,
what a blessing that children are;
she works hard for just a chance,
that motherhood is not that far.
All odds are stacked against her,
and yet she still has hope;
everyday is another struggle,
finding ways to help her cope.
So even though her arms are empty,
she can still be a mother too;
So say a special “Happy Mother's Day”for those waiting for their dreams to come true!