Monday, March 21, 2011

A Hard Post- but it was requested

This is a hard thing to do, but I know so many people love us and wish to help us.

I have had 3 requests for ways to give us money to help us in the undertaking of the surrogacy that is VERY expensive. So some of my very crafty friends suggested a PayPal button where they could donate some money to help us. I thought that was so sweet of them. But please I do not want anyone to feel obligated or pressured. It is there simply for those who are asking on how to help us. Believe me every little bit helps!!! I am getting a second job in the evening after my normal full-time job to try to help us make it- so believe me we are so grateful!

The button is directly to the left of this column- at the top where it says "Donate".

Thank you again for every one's willingness to help us- even if it is praying for us constantly- we feel those prayers and are so thankful for them ALL!!! God Bless you all for everything!

We are moving along!!

Well here is an update on our journey's progress.....

It seems like we have a million and 5 things that we have to do to have a dagg-on baby. I mean people get pregnant all the time and do not have to do any of this crap! I am really frustrated if you cant tell. So this is where we are:

The lawyer : she is wonderful!! But we are having to pay $5000 for the surrogacy paperwork and the subsequent adoption at the end. Because these children will not be biologically related to us, we have to go through a FULL ADOPTION after the baby is born. Which leads us to the adoption...... which means we have to now finish the home study we stopped 1/2 way through because the birth mom changed her mind (remember??).... So lets add another $1500 to that. I go in on Wednesday to have my last meeting with the social worker before the home visit and then she will write it up.

The clinic: Well they of course are not moving fast at all. But they did let me know all the hoops we have to jump through. So the surrogate and her husband has to have a full STD panel, she has to have a hydro sonogram as well as a psych evaluation.

Me and Sweetness also have to have a psych evaluation. Our appointment is next Thursday, but really? I mean the clinic KNOWS us- but no we have to pay $350 for them to "certify" we are not mental. Love it!

So I feel like I have a million things going on, and trying to get all these meeting done before I return to work on April 4th. At can I just say I am absolutely dreading going back to work there. It is so stressful and my immediate boss is so mean and basically hates me- so yeah not thrilled. But I do have an interview tomorrow, but honestly not thrilled about it or even thinking its going to be a real contender. But I will keep you updated.

But I also am going to have to take a part time evening job to make enough money to pay the surrogate. It should be an exciting rest of the year- but I just want to go ahead and transfer the embryos and get her pregnant and get on with it!!!

So I pick up the final surrogate contract at the lawyer on Friday afternoon, and then I will drop it off to my surrogate for her to review, so hopefully we will be on our way.

Thanks for all the prayers.....we are still have a long way to go!