Well as you all know last night we attended our first adoption meeting. I wish I had something exciting to say, but we left there feeling deflated! I mean seriously with all the children that need a home, and they make this so freaking expensive!!! $33,000 for a domestic infant adoption. Yep, $33,000!!!!
I mean just to start you have to give them $1000 for the application. Then another $1000 for the full application, the $3000 for the home study.....and there it begins. ARGHHH..... I mean we have just about bankrupted ourselves with IVF and such and now we do not even have a hope of adopting. Sure there are grants and loans out there for adoption, but we make WAY too much money to qualify for them. And this place we went is a christian organzation, which we like, however they state they are not for profit. But as Sweetness pointed out, then why are the base adoption fees on a sliding scale based on income? And of course we are on the highest bracket.
We both felt just Blech! after leaving there, and just regrouped and said now we just focus on the 3 tries we have left at our IVF.
I have to believe God has a plan! I have to! We love babies and children too much to believe the Lord wants our life to be just the 2 of us. So barring an act form God, we will not be adopting. Next Tuesday we have a meeting with our RE to discuss our FET in a couple weeks. Hopefully we can set up a better plan.
I know you guys were waiting for some news, so I wanted to give you an update. I am at work on a short break, so gotta run. Thanks again for all the prayers. We trust the Lord that He has a beautiful plan for our life- can't wait to see it unfold!
Ellie Sue is 10.
6 years ago
He DOES have a beautiful plan for you! It's hard to understand that it is better than OUR plan, but it is!
ReplyDeleteHave you thought about checking out other adoption agencies? I have been on international adoption websites that show less expenses than you stated above. Just a thought. That sucks that it is based on income...it is crazy that people who didn't put the time and money into going to college or the effort into getting a job get more privileges. Sometimes I don't like how society works...I mean, I am glad there are loans, but I just wish it were easier for people of ALL income levels to adopt. Look at all the infants through teens out there just waiting for a permanent home. Sigh.
I'm so sorry it did not go very well. I will be praying for you and your husband! I will be praying for the success of your next IVF!!
ReplyDeleteHave you ever thought about adopting through foster/adoptive care? I know it is not for everyone, but there are so many children (even new born babies) who need a mommy and daddy that get moved in and out of foster homes over and over who are avaliable for adoption. I am a social worker and would be happy to help you get information or answer any questions you may have. (you can email me through my blog) I don't live in your state and I know every state is different, but maybe I could help you get in contact with someone who could help you.
I'm so sorry sweetie. I wish it would've gone better for you. Your attitude is AMAZING, though! Really! I admire you. (((HUGS)))
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